Is this the place??

It is mid summer and I again find myself wondering is this where we are suppose to be? If you read any earlier posts you know I live in a beautiful place however it is very different then where I expected to be. However at the age of twenty two I wanted nothing to do with children and was working on a successful career. Wow did God have a different plan for me. So here we are more than ten years later and I find myself always asking the same questions. Is this what God intended? I get these fleeting moments like last night with all of us swimming in our lake that this is it,this is where God wants me to raise and cherish my boys. Then I have other days where I see the culture around here where we are to expect nothing of our children except to have a good time. I guess I exaggerate, it is not that bad but pretty close. I expect my children to do chores. I have six boys who have two hands and legs that all work. They can help. You would think I was removing a limb by just asking them to empty the dishwasher. You know what is the funny part I don't even care if I have to do it but I know they must learn to be self sufficient. With six boys I want them to enter their adult lives knowing how to take care of themselves. I want them to marry a woman because they found a wife they can cherish, not so they can have someone to cook and clean for them. Is that possible around here. My kids think because we don't have a cleaning lady we are just so "poor." I try to tell them most of the world does not employ a cleaning service and some of their best friends don't have them, and why does it even matter. Why do kids always see what they don't have? In truth my kids have never really wanted for nothing and maybe that is the problem. We'll that is about to change, with a new pay cut and work slow, things in this household will change and I ask myself is that really a bad thing?????We all went the best for our children but is what we are giving them really the best?